As women, we are gravely depleted and worn out because we absorb trauma, relational discord,financial stress, and the lion’s share of worry when raising children. I have learned thatcumulative depletion results from years of neglecting these deeper needs for adequate rest,
healthy food, mental space and a substantial dependence on God for what enlivens a woman’s
soul ultimately robs us of the true joy God offers us the midst of our circumstances.
God cares for our needs and has the abundance of heaven to offer us, but we cannot be passive
recipients of His attention and provision and expect to get the rest of what we are looking for.
We must take responsibility for our side of the equation on a daily basis. Consistently taking up
the task of not only living within your personal limits but also drawing deep from the well of
God’s wisdom for your life
Self-care is the physical, emotional, and spiritual equivalent of automobile maintenance. Change
the oil, check the transmission fluid, check the air-pressure, and get weird noises checked out,
then your car or truck should last. Ignore the “clunk, clunk” or the smoking tailpipe long enough
and expect a costly repair later.
We may have missed some simple things that we often do daily without knowing it. Simply as
eating right. Working as a nurse I would just eat a Snickers, some Sweet Tarts, jelly beans, you
name it and work my morning shift . I have probably eaten more processed sugar in my life than
all the my children and grandchildren. To put it bluntly: I treated the temple of the Holy Spirit
like a candy store. I do not have a miracle, “I started eating salads, lost weight, and feel great,”
testimony. But, I am learning to eat right because you are what you eat.
I see my neighbors waking briskly everyday and yes , exercise is another great thing to put on
your to do list. The Bible does not talk much about exercise, but it didn’t need to. Biblical
characters walked, herded, and gardened all the time. Exercise was part of life. We should, as
much as possible, adopt that mindset.
I have openly confessed my aversion to taking a Sabbath on Monday’s. I am averse because I
feel guilty if I am doing nothing, and I don’t like feeling guilty—like I am wasting time or being
lazy.
A day of rest does not imply a day of sleep; rest is more than that. It means to stop for a while to
let your body, soul, mind, and spirit catch up with each other. Without rest we cannot recharge
and without recharging we become like a spent battery: good for nothing except to be trodden
under foot of man.
I am an early riser and, apparently, it is only getting worse the older I get. Most mornings I
awake before my 3:00am . Some mornings it’s an hour before. I cannot sleep-in on weekends.
Only after the most strenuous weeks would I sleep until 6:00am on a Saturday.
It is a running joke with my friends that any text message before 8:00 or 10:00am may go
unanswered until later that morning.
Sleep is essential to optimal functioning, but sometimes it is hard to come-by.It is important to
seek help to process post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD) symptoms and address addictions or
other means of self-medication.
As women, we are gravely depleted and worn out because we absorb trauma, relational discord,
financial stress, and the lion’s share of worry when raising children.
All too often, we simply don’t nourish ourselves with restorative habits to counterbalance the
difficult things we experience.
The cumulative depletion that results from years of neglecting these deeper needs for adequate
rest, healthy food, mental space and a substantial dependence on God for what enlivens a
woman’s soul ultimately robs us of the true joy God offers us the midst of our circumstances.
God cares for our needs and has the abundance of heaven to offer us, but we cannot be passive
recipients of His attention and provision and expect to get the rest we are looking for.
We must take responsibility for our side of the equation on a daily basis. Consistently taking up
the task of not only living within your personal limits but also drawing deep from the well of
God’s wisdom for your life..
We should practice self-care not for fear of extremes, but because it manifests this truth: we
belong to God—body, soul, mind, and spirit. And, we can love God better with each if we are
taking care of them as we should.
The Importance of Self -Care Woman of God
One of the most difficult challenges facing clergy is setting healthy boundaries. It is important
especially as women to be aware of the contributing factors that affect one’s own spiritual,
emotional, mental, and physical well- being.
Pastors we bear heavy loads, especially in these post-Christian and post-denominational ages.
Especially now that there is a new norm as we get a grip with the world changes and social
media congregations. There are a list of the reasons that I have been challenged as being a
pastor for a numbers of years and not even thinking about any me time or self-care.
Everybody wants the pastor to be a priest, an administrator, a building/facilities repair person, a
psychiatrist, the best preacher in the world, the teacher of Bible Study, the worship innovator, the
congregational growth expert, the ethicist of our day, the political voice of these times, the
millennial whisperer, HR specialist, Economist, missionary, fund raiser, the model
father/mother/spouse and, in some cases, just a plain ole’ savior.
By the end of the day, I am entirely at the end of myself.
I’m ready for a ice cream sandwich and looking for some classical music to calm my mind from
the many worries of the day .Instead of tackling the list of creative projects I take a power nap
collapsing onto the sofa chair and leaving many things left undone for another day or time.
When I finally peel myself off the couch, I wasn’t any better off than when I started. Wow!!!
And yet, I’ve honestly thought the term self-care was kind of lame. After taking “Clinical
Pastoral Care “ where I have learned the importance of self-care . I honestly learned how much
stress that I had voluntarily placed on myself . I didn’t even think about myself and not even self-
care.
I couldn’t put my finger on exactly where to start and what I didn’t like about it. I mean, a bath
sounds nice, spa with the works or even though I’m not a wine-drinker myself, I know plenty of
people who enjoy a glass now and then.(Humor)
I started wondering why all the chatter about self-care irritated me so much?
Until, one day it hit me. As I begin to look at magazine articles and commercials I continued to
think deeply about this issue of self-care. Unfortunately, many of these self-care promises barely
skim the surface of a much deeper issue: There is no one-time spa escape or miracle product that
touches the more serious need for a woman to be revived and replenished from the inside out.
“Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? 1 Corinthians
3:16
Ultimately, self-care is not a work we do in ourselves. God does the work in us, we make the
space for it to happen, and we participate in that good work by taking hold of the various ways
God has supplied sustenance to our minds, bodies, and souls.
As women, we are gravely depleted and worn out because we absorb trauma, relational discord,
financial stress, and the lion’s share of worry when raising children. I have learned that
cumulative depletion results from years of neglecting these deeper needs for adequate rest,
healthy food, mental space and a substantial dependence on God for what enlivens a woman’s
soul ultimately robs us of the true joy God offers us the midst of our circumstances.
God cares for our needs and has the abundance of heaven to offer us, but we cannot be passive
recipients of His attention and provision and expect to get the rest of what we are looking for.
We must take responsibility for our side of the equation on a daily basis. Consistently taking up
the task of not only living within your personal limits but also drawing deep from the well of
God’s wisdom for your life
Self-care is the physical, emotional, and spiritual equivalent of automobile maintenance. Change
the oil, check the transmission fluid, check the air-pressure, and get weird noises checked out,
then your car or truck should last. Ignore the “clunk, clunk” or the smoking tailpipe long enough
and expect a costly repair later.
We may have missed some simple things that we often do daily without knowing it. Simply as
eating right. Working as a nurse I would just eat a Snickers, some Sweet Tarts, jelly beans, you
name it and work my morning shift . I have probably eaten more processed sugar in my life than
all the my children and grandchildren. To put it bluntly: I treated the temple of the Holy Spirit
like a candy store. I do not have a miracle, “I started eating salads, lost weight, and feel great,”
testimony. But, I am learning to eat right because you are what you eat.
I see my neighbors waking briskly everyday and yes , exercise is another great thing to put on
your to do list. The Bible does not talk much about exercise, but it didn’t need to. Biblical
characters walked, herded, and gardened all the time. Exercise was part of life. We should, as
much as possible, adopt that mindset.
I have openly confessed my aversion to taking a Sabbath on Monday’s. I am averse because I
feel guilty if I am doing nothing, and I don’t like feeling guilty—like I am wasting time or being
lazy.
A day of rest does not imply a day of sleep; rest is more than that. It means to stop for a while to
let your body, soul, mind, and spirit catch up with each other. Without rest we cannot recharge
and without recharging we become like a spent battery: good for nothing except to be trodden
under foot of man.
I am an early riser and, apparently, it is only getting worse the older I get. Most mornings I
awake before my 3:00am . Some mornings it’s an hour before. I cannot sleep-in on weekends.
Only after the most strenuous weeks would I sleep until 6:00am on a Saturday.
It is a running joke with my friends that any text message before 8:00 or 10:00am may go
unanswered until later that morning.
Sleep is essential to optimal functioning, but sometimes it is hard to come-by.It is important to
seek help to process post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD) symptoms and address addictions or
other means of self-medication.
As women, we are gravely depleted and worn out because we absorb trauma, relational discord,
financial stress, and the lion’s share of worry when raising children.
All too often, we simply don’t nourish ourselves with restorative habits to counterbalance the
difficult things we experience.
The cumulative depletion that results from years of neglecting these deeper needs for adequate
rest, healthy food, mental space and a substantial dependence on God for what enlivens a
woman’s soul ultimately robs us of the true joy God offers us the midst of our circumstances.
God cares for our needs and has the abundance of heaven to offer us, but we cannot be passive
recipients of His attention and provision and expect to get the rest we are looking for.
We must take responsibility for our side of the equation on a daily basis. Consistently taking up
the task of not only living within your personal limits but also drawing deep from the well of
God’s wisdom for your life..
We should practice self-care not for fear of extremes, but because it manifests this truth: we
belong to God—body, soul, mind, and spirit. And, we can love God better with each if we are
taking care of them as we should.
One of the most difficult challenges facing clergy is setting healthy boundaries. It is important
especially as women to be aware of the contributing factors that affect one’s own spiritual,
emotional, mental, and physical well- being.
Pastors we bear heavy loads, especially in these post-Christian and post-denominational ages.
Especially now that there is a new norm as we get a grip with the world changes and social
media congregations. There are a list of the reasons that I have been challenged as being a
pastor for a numbers of years and not even thinking about any me time or self-care.
Everybody wants the pastor to be a priest, an administrator, a building/facilities repair person, a
psychiatrist, the best preacher in the world, the teacher of Bible Study, the worship innovator, the
congregational growth expert, the ethicist of our day, the political voice of these times, the
millennial whisperer, HR specialist, Economist, missionary, fund raiser, the model
father/mother/spouse and, in some cases, just a plain ole’ savior.
By the end of the day, I am entirely at the end of myself.
I’m ready for a ice cream sandwich and looking for some classical music to calm my mind from
the many worries of the day .Instead of tackling the list of creative projects I take a power nap
collapsing onto the sofa chair and leaving many things left undone for another day or time.
When I finally peel myself off the couch, I wasn’t any better off than when I started. Wow!!!
And yet, I’ve honestly thought the term self-care was kind of lame. After taking “Clinical
Pastoral Care “ where I have learned the importance of self-care . I honestly learned how much
stress that I had voluntarily placed on myself . I didn’t even think about myself and not even self-
care.
I couldn’t put my finger on exactly where to start and what I didn’t like about it. I mean, a bath
sounds nice, spa with the works or even though I’m not a wine-drinker myself, I know plenty of
people who enjoy a glass now and then.(Humor)
I started wondering why all the chatter about self-care irritated me so much?
Until, one day it hit me. As I begin to look at magazine articles and commercials I continued to
think deeply about this issue of self-care. Unfortunately, many of these self-care promises barely
skim the surface of a much deeper issue: There is no one-time spa escape or miracle product that
touches the more serious need for a woman to be revived and replenished from the inside out.
“Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? 1 Corinthians
3:16
Ultimately, self-care is not a work we do in ourselves. God does the work in us, we make the
space for it to happen, and we participate in that good work by taking hold of the various ways
God has supplied sustenance to our minds, bodies, and souls.
As women, we are gravely depleted and worn out because we absorb trauma, relational discord,
financial stress, and the lion’s share of worry when raising children. I have learned that
cumulative depletion results from years of neglecting these deeper needs for adequate rest,
healthy food, mental space and a substantial dependence on God for what enlivens a woman’s
soul ultimately robs us of the true joy God offers us the midst of our circumstances.
God cares for our needs and has the abundance of heaven to offer us, but we cannot be passive
recipients of His attention and provision and expect to get the rest of what we are looking for.
We must take responsibility for our side of the equation on a daily basis. Consistently taking up
the task of not only living within your personal limits but also drawing deep from the well of
God’s wisdom for your life
Self-care is the physical, emotional, and spiritual equivalent of automobile maintenance. Change
the oil, check the transmission fluid, check the air-pressure, and get weird noises checked out,
then your car or truck should last. Ignore the “clunk, clunk” or the smoking tailpipe long enough
and expect a costly repair later.
We may have missed some simple things that we often do daily without knowing it. Simply as
eating right. Working as a nurse I would just eat a Snickers, some Sweet Tarts, jelly beans, you
name it and work my morning shift . I have probably eaten more processed sugar in my life than
all the my children and grandchildren. To put it bluntly: I treated the temple of the Holy Spirit
like a candy store. I do not have a miracle, “I started eating salads, lost weight, and feel great,”
testimony. But, I am learning to eat right because you are what you eat.
I see my neighbors waking briskly everyday and yes , exercise is another great thing to put on
your to do list. The Bible does not talk much about exercise, but it didn’t need to. Biblical
characters walked, herded, and gardened all the time. Exercise was part of life. We should, as
much as possible, adopt that mindset.
I have openly confessed my aversion to taking a Sabbath on Monday’s. I am averse because I
feel guilty if I am doing nothing, and I don’t like feeling guilty—like I am wasting time or being
lazy.
A day of rest does not imply a day of sleep; rest is more than that. It means to stop for a while to
let your body, soul, mind, and spirit catch up with each other. Without rest we cannot recharge
and without recharging we become like a spent battery: good for nothing except to be trodden
under foot of man.
I am an early riser and, apparently, it is only getting worse the older I get. Most mornings I
awake before my 3:00am . Some mornings it’s an hour before. I cannot sleep-in on weekends.
Only after the most strenuous weeks would I sleep until 6:00am on a Saturday.
It is a running joke with my friends that any text message before 8:00 or 10:00am may go
unanswered until later that morning.
Sleep is essential to optimal functioning, but sometimes it is hard to come-by.It is important to
seek help to process post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD) symptoms and address addictions or
other means of self-medication.
As women, we are gravely depleted and worn out because we absorb trauma, relational discord,
financial stress, and the lion’s share of worry when raising children.
All too often, we simply don’t nourish ourselves with restorative habits to counterbalance the
difficult things we experience.
The cumulative depletion that results from years of neglecting these deeper needs for adequate
rest, healthy food, mental space and a substantial dependence on God for what enlivens a
woman’s soul ultimately robs us of the true joy God offers us the midst of our circumstances.
God cares for our needs and has the abundance of heaven to offer us, but we cannot be passive
recipients of His attention and provision and expect to get the rest we are looking for.
We must take responsibility for our side of the equation on a daily basis. Consistently taking up
the task of not only living within your personal limits but also drawing deep from the well of
God’s wisdom for your life..
We should practice self-care not for fear of extremes, but because it manifests this truth: we
belong to God—body, soul, mind, and spirit. And, we can love God better with each if we are
taking care of them as we should.